Investing in yourself first

I was listening to Entrepreneur on Fire the other day and David Wood was talking about investing in yourself, and he was not joking around.  You need to be investing in your most valuable resource – YOU!  

This weekend I am doing exactly that.  I am investing in myself, in that lump of pink grey mass that sits between my ears:)  Nice visual isn’t it!

This weekend I am spending 3 days with Lisa Nichols and her Motivating the Masses support team at their annual conference Speak and Write to Make Millions.  And let me tell you this event is nothing shy of great.  The way I ended up at the conference was magical, the timing of the conference was perfect and the value its providing is priceless.

SpeakWriteAbout 4-5 months ago I was volunteering at an event.  I had been feeling somewhat uninspired in my day job and thinking about how I could make a bigger impact on the day-to-day.  I am watching people share when this amazingly eloquent lady steps to the microphone and starts talking in her sultry voice about how blessed she is to work with such a wonderful cast of people and have a life where she reaches and motivates thousands.  I was interested.  I wouldn’t normally go up and talk to her, but I had this feeling inside of me, like it was a line of demarcation or something.  It was an opportunity to either walk toward my destiny or shrink away from it, and I chose the former.  In what felt like a really bold move, I introduced myself to her and said that I would love to chat sometime if she was open to it.  

2 weeks later we had a phone call.  I asked her questions about her life, job and journey; and she offered a ticket to Speak and Write.  As the event neared, with this new promise to leaving the day job and becoming an entrepreneur, I reached out to her and voila – I received a hugely discounted ticket in;-)  Connections make the world go round.

Fast forward to today, day 1 of the conference   We covered a lot of ground and it is late so I can’t share it all with you, but I can tell you some of the key take aways or golden nuggets.

  • The self-development industry is a $210B industry – HOLY HECK get in on this pie
  • Your potential customer’s lack of resources does not determine your value!
  • When you are truly connected to your audience you check in with them and see if their needs are being met.
  • Convictions and convenience do not live in the same sentence.  Are you willing to give for your dreams?
  • A book is simply an expensive business card.  But it can be very valuable for brand leveraging.
  • Hire people who are going to lead, not follow.
  • Pyrrhic victory is when the cost of the victory outweighs the victory itself – watch out for this.
  • Your Unique Selling Proposition (USP) allows you to determine who you to craft your core message, because it captures who you are and what you stand for.
  • When you talk to people and network lead with the benefit or result that you provide and what you need, vice what you do.  

Please leave a comment and let me know: What are you doing to invest in yourself?  What have you found that is really valuable?



I’m not going to make it

I said that I was going to get a couple of things done this weekend, ie photo shoot, eat Paleo, order business cards and get my Google Sniper site up and running.  I did all of that except for the Google Sniper site, and I wanted to let you know now that I am not getting that done.  I would like to think that I am going to and its not going to work out.

I am a huge fan of calling a spade a spade.  I mean any marketing class that you attend will let you know that if you are not going to do something, you are breaking a promise to the public – go ugly early and let them know up front what the problems are or what the truth is.  Now I know that you are not my consumer base and I didn’t sell you faulty Asprin.  But I do think that you deserve that same respect/honor, or how else will we grow this beautiful fledgling relationship into the full-on partnership that I am planning for.

The cool thing about coming to grips with and admitting what is so, is that now I can:

  1. Look at what didn’t work  that had me not reach my goal
  2. Look at the impact of not doing what I said I would do (if this were a time sensitive activity it could really have an impact – lost contract opportunity missed equipment delivery date, etc)
  3. Make a new promise that can be trusted because I let you know ASAP that I was not going to be able to do what I said I would when I said I would (credibility)
  4. Put a plan in place that will support me in my new promise, building off of and avoiding what go in the way of me accomplishing the last promise

That said, my new promise is that I am going to pick a product to sell and what key word I am going to build my website around by Tuesday morning.  And to support me in doing that I have blocked 3 hours.

Now it’s time for nighty night.  Love you guys!  Let me know what you are re-promising to do that you previously promised to yourself or someone else in the comments below.

My Breaking Point

Does anyone remember the movie Joe Versus the Volcano?  It is a story about, and I quote from IMDB: “When a hypochondriac (Tom Hanks circa 1990) learns that he is dying, he accepts an offer to throw himself in a volcano at a tropical island, and along the way there, learns to truly live.”  Well I do, and it made a mark.  This one scene in particular where Joe goes to his office job with buzzing florescent lights, green grey walls, no windows, sick co-workers and this one crappy dying plant.  Anyone?  Bueller?… Bueller?

Ok well don’t let me discribe it to you – just watch it.

This is not what my job is like, but when I have nightmares about being an office desk jockey for the rest of my life, like the day that I called Jessica freaking out and we decided it was time for me to pick at date andwrite my letter of resignation, this is what they look like.   Me frail, sickly and covered in chair-ass (RLOL that word always makes me chuckle), sitting underneath humming lights, surrounded by piles of papers with a yelling boss and no sense of purpose.

Like Donald Trump said, “Part of being a winner is knowing when enough is enough. Sometimes you have to give up the fight and walk away, and move on to something that’s more productive.”  

What is your breaking point?  What is that one thing that would push you over the edge now or that has pushed your to the “enough is enough” point in the past?  Let us know in the comments below.


What are you resisting?

what-you-resist-persists-e2809d-carl-jungIt’s 9Am and I have been falling asleep since the moment I got to work.  I am not talking about being tired.  I am talking about pinching your inner thighs, putting toothpicks in your eyelids as stint, scouring the office for energy pills and frequent trips to the bathroom just trying to stay awake here.  I’M DESPERATE and STRUGGLING.  It feels like all I can do to just stay awake and not get caught falling asleep.

I send Jessica a text.  “Dude!  I am literally falling asleep at my desk – sooooo not good.  AND I even got sufficient sleep last night.”  Expecting words of encouragement and comfort I stare at my phone.  The magical iPhone ellipsis appears.  I wait.

“What are you resisting?”

What the heck?  That is not the encouragement or tip that I needed.  I think ‘What kind of friend is she?  Really, Who says that?’ as I lock my phone in my desk drawer.  I will show her!

But the ‘What are you resisting?’ cannot be undone.  The words echo as they bounce around in my mind.  What am I resisting?  Clearly it has a direct correlation to this thing called my day job, because I was feeling fine before I arrived at my desk and in my seat in front of these meeting minutes, but I don’t feel like I am resisting.  It isn’t a conscious choice I made.  I mean I would never CHOOSE to spend the whole day angry at work, counting the moments until freedom and struggling to stay awake, but what if I did make that choice?  What if I do choose suffering over just getting it done?  Hmmmm… I don’t like this line of self-inquiry.

I would like to say that at that moment I stopped resisting my daily tasking.  Stopped telling myself how pointless it was and how much it didn’t matter to anyone, but that would be a lie :).  I spent all day suffering and being angry about my resistance, but when I got home that night I allowed myself to be impacted by that resistance and the toll that it takes on my productivity, experience of work and my life (because as you may have guessed, it doesn’t just show up at work).  After marinading on it for a little I am choosing to give my resistance up.  I am a powerhouse and I power through thing!  How do you like me now Jess? 😉

Time to fess up folks: WHAT ARE YOU RESISTING?  Let us know in the comments below.